Postpartum: You will find your way!

Recently, my beloved aunt and baby helper since my boy was born left us.

She lives in Venezuela, and for the past three years, her generous heart has brought her to my home to help take care of my son.

She was always the loving and cool aunt when I was growing up, and after my mother passed nine years ago, she became a central maternal figure in my life.

Every time she leaves, the house feels empty. It’s hard to reorganize and adjust to the days without her warm meals, her cookies, her laughter.

Having her has been the biggest blessing, and when she leaves, I feel lost. Or at least that’s how I felt the past two years.

This year, though, something shifted.

Maybe it’s because I’ve had more time to grow into this version of myself. Maybe it’s because my baby isn’t a baby anymore—he’s a full-on toddler, busy discovering the world. Or maybe it’s because I’ve finally learned to listen to that soft voice inside of me. Some call it Intuition.

It’s always been there, quietly guiding me. But only now I feel strong enough to truly trust it. I wish I hadn’t waited so long. I wish I had trusted myself more.

In fairness, there were moments when I did. Like when everyone told me, “You need to sleep-train that baby before it’s too late,” or “You shouldn’t nurse him to sleep; he’ll never learn to sleep on his own.” And that little voice inside me said, “So what? Do what feels right.”

So I did. I held him. I nursed him. I ignored the noise and did what felt right for us. And I’m happy to report that, against all odds, my boy eventually learned how to sleep without nursing. When he was ready. When we both were.

So yes, we all need help. We need people who lift us up and make this humongous task of raising a child just a little lighter. But more than that, we need to count on ourselves. On our instincts. On the ancestral, spiritual, emotional, and intellectual knowledge within us.

That soft voice that says you are worthy of this incredible responsibility of nurturing a child’s life. You and I—we were made for this. And no matter what, we will always find our way.

Love 💕 

Angelica Flores 

Gold Mamas Co-Founder